I’m Unsure How Involved I Should Stay

You’re unsure how involved you should remain as things change.

Your role feels different than it used to.
And the boundaries aren’t clear yet.

CHECK FIRST
Pause and consider:
What does my student seem to need from me right now?
Where am I still needed?
Where can I step back safely?
Am I expecting a clear answer too quickly?

Involvement often shifts in stages.

THEN
Choose a posture that fits this phase.

Option 1: Let involvement evolve
It doesn’t need to be defined all at once.

Option 2: Stay connected, not controlling
Relationship matters more than oversight.

Option 3: Adjust as needed
What works now may change later.

PAUSE
You don’t have to decide your long-term role today.
This next phase will reveal itself over time.

NOTES / REFLECTION
Where does involvement feel helpful?
Where does it feel heavy?
What feels right for now?

If you want to understand why senior year feels heavy right now, start with Senior Year, Season by Season.

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